Friday, January 06, 2006

A Charming Encounter

The morning after my husband told me his mind was made up and we were getting a divorce, I went to the gym. I decided to continue taking care of myself and to keep a positive attitude. I am not feeling bitter. However, I’m still somewhat in shock even though I sort of knew it was coming.

Anyway, I was explaining that I went to the gym--and I was glad that I did. A few of my gym buddies offered hugs and kind words of advice. I even met a new friend through an older one. The man who introduced himself to me through our mutual buddy wasn’t aware that I was freshly dumped, but he offered me a romantic story. He is deeply in love with his wife. He explained how he proposed to her. His words were beautifully eloquent and the setting was a gorgeous Italian vista. I felt a little envious of his wife. It made me think, “Wow, there are real romances! They don’t just happen in the movies.”

The man who spoke such pretty words about his wife is a handsome, Irish-Catholic Chief of Police with piercing blue eyes and a friendly face. His gold band flashed a reminder that some men not only proudly wear their wedding band, but speak illustriously of winning the woman of their dreams--even to new friends. I was almost moved to tears.

Chief Irish is valiant for dedicating his life to helping others, and for his spirited heart. I hope that I am lucky enough to meet more people like him.

I walked away from him feeling a little warmer inside. I got onto the elliptical trainer and as my heart pumped faster and faster I heard a touching song coming through the speakers. It sounded like the soulful voice of Joss Stone. The song spoke of freedom and it made me smile.


Her Daddy's Eyes said...

I happened upon your blog today and was touched by your post. I think it's wonderful that you are still doing postive things for yourself like going to the gym and meeting new friends. Most times it's easier to crawl up into a little ball. Good for you! Keep up the good work and you'll be happier in the future!

jbgrinch said...

It is good to hear that you will continue to take care of your health, your children need to see that life will continue. You will get thru this I can read that many folks care about you. Im glad to hear that you might take me up on talking later! I think you might be a good person to meet over some coffee. Ill check in again later

love and prayers

Bud said...

Jess, I'm so sorry I missed your last post. I'm in the middle of a hellish work week.. I feel terrible that you are hurting but I know after the pain subsides and you find your way, you will be far better off. I predict that at some point you will need a restraining order to keep him away from you. What about that guy who would have gotten together with you if you weren't married? Time to check in with him?

Melissa said...

You've been unhappy with him for quite a while (at least as far as I can tell from your posts), so it sounds like this will probably be good for you. I know it's rough now, but you'll get through it. A short break from the men might not be a bad idea either, but that's just my opinion. Anyway, good luck.